여자친구 바람

이번 주말도 바쁘고, 다음 주 일요일에 만나자고 하네요. 정말 이별을 생각해야 하는 건지 매일 고민입니다.

결혼의 대상인 여자친구가 다른 나라 중앙부처로 발령이 났습니다. 우리는 이제 장거리이고 편도 2시간이 걸립니다.  


여자친구는 현재 같은 지자체에서 8급 국가기술직 공무원으로 근무하고 있는데, 채용 시즌에 중앙부처로 전보 발령이 나서 어쩔 수 없이 가게 되었다고 합니다.

거리가 멀어서 걱정이 되긴 했지만 자주 갈 수 있을 거라고 생각해서 잘 해보려고 노력했습니다.

다른 공무원 친구는 여성 8급이 중앙부처에 가는 경우가 흔치 않으니 자원이 많을 거라고 하더라고요.

이 시점에서 저는 약간의 의구심이 들었습니다.

국가직 특성상 3~4년마다 이동해야 하는 건 알지만, 중앙정부로 끌려가는 7급과 달리 8급은 주로 자의에 의한 이동이거든요.

여자친구는 분명히 강제로 간다고 했어요...

사실 여자친구 직장동료 중에 수상한 남자 동료가 있었고, 같은 부서 선배여서 이름은 대충 알고 있었습니다.

여자친구에게 너만 갔냐고 물었더니 과장님 동료 몇 명과 함께 갔다고 하더라고요.

최근 여자친구가 장거리 연애를 하게 된 후 일 때문에 바쁘다고 하셔서 평소 연락도 많이 줄었고, 마지막으로 만난 게 2월 마지막 주말이었는데요.

중앙부처라서 바쁘다는 건 알지만... 자기가 원해서 간 거라면 말로 표현할 수 없는 배신감을 느낍니다.

작은 사역이고, 8급 사무관인데 자원해서 간 건지, 아니면 말 그대로 로테이션으로 무작정 간 건지.... 궁금합니다.

결혼을 생각하고 장거리 연애를 할 생각이라면 이별을 준비해야 할까요?




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하앙,,, 오빠,,, 때려줘,,,, 어흑,,, 하아,,,하아,,,,, 그새끈 정리,,,으흥,,,했으니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,, 하앙,,,오빠,,,때려줘,,,, 어흑,,,하아,,하아,,,,, 그새끈 정리,,,으흥,,,했으니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,,╱▔▔▔╲▏▏▕♥, ,♥╭┈_
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이렇게 중요한 말을 입 밖으로 꺼내지도 못한다면 결혼 생활에서 무엇을하고 있습니까? 이보다 훨씬 더 많은 어려움과 투쟁이있을 것이므로 의심은 상대방에게 상처를주고 결국 당신 자신도 상처를 입게됩니다.
[* 익명1 *] 0 1
Yes.
2023-03-18 15:36 | 답글
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  [* 저자 *] 1 0
정말 심각합니다 ...
2023-03-18 15:40 | 답글
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  [* 익명12 *] 0 3
예, 준비되었습니다.

2023-03-18 18:36 * | 답글
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의심이 든다면 상황이 예상했던 것과 같기 때문에 그와 헤어지십시오.
2023-03-18 19:50 * | 답글
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2023-03-18 15:36 | 댓글
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  [*익명14 *] 0 1
나쁜 년이야.
2023-03-18 19:47 * | 답글
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와우 ㅋㅋ
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ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
2023-03-18 20:01 * | 댓글
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  [* 익명44 *] 0 1
빛 실명 시스템으로 변경 되었나요 ...?
2023-03-18 20:04 * | 답글
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  [* 익명45 *] 0 0
ㅋㅋ, 전 여자 친구를 개념화하던 그 남자가 생각 나네요. ㅋㅋ
저런 건 처음 봐요.
2023-03-18 20:05 * | 댓글
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석렬스럽네
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ㅋㅋ 웃기네 ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ 작성자표정궁금하네요ㅋㅋㅋㅋㅋ
2023-03-18 20:29 * | Reply
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문죄인팬덤이 추천누른거 보소
2023-03-19 06:45 * | 답글
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당신은 이미 당신의 전화가 죽었다는 사실로 이미 그것을 알고 있습니다.
2023-03-18 15:36 | 답글
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출퇴근길에 매일 그녀에게 연락하지만 보통 너무 바빠서 그녀와 이야기 할 수 없습니다.
2023-03-18 15:41 | 답글
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말로 속일 수는 있지만 행동과 감정으로 속일 수는 없습니다.
의심이 많았다면 상대방이 이미 알고있는 것 같습니다.
2023-03-18 15:45 | 댓글
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내가 바쁠 거라고 생각한다면 망상입니다.
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당신이 느끼면 당신이 옳습니다
2023-03-18 15:38 | 답글
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나는 평소 의심스러운 사람입니다 ...
2023-03-18 15:42 | 답글
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대부분의 경우,


This weekend is also busy, and she says she'll see me next Sunday. Every day I wonder if I should really think about breaking up.

My girlfriend, the subject of my marriage, has been transferred to a central government office in another country. We are now long-distance and it takes 2 hours each way.  


My girlfriend is currently a grade 8 national technical employee in the same local government, but she was transferred to the central government during the recruitment season and said she was forced to go.

I was worried about the long distance, but I thought that I would be able to go there often, so I tried to make it work.

Another public service friend told me that it is not common for female grade 8 to go to the central government, so it must be a resource.

At this point, I had some doubts.

I know that I have to move every 3 to 4 years due to the nature of the national job, but unlike grade 7, which is dragged to the central government, grade 8 is mainly voluntary.

My girlfriend definitely told me that I was forced to go...

Actually, one of my girlfriend's coworkers had a suspicious male coworker and was a senior in her department, so I knew his name roughly.

When I asked her if you were the only one who went, she said that she went with him and a few of the chief's colleagues.

Recently, after my girlfriend became long-distance, she said that she was busy with work, so I usually contacted her a lot less, and the last time I met her was the last weekend of February.

I know it's busy because it's a centralized department, but... If she went because she wanted to, I feel betrayed beyond words.

It's a small ministry, and it's a grade 8 clerk clerk, but did you volunteer to go or was it literally a rotation and went to randomly... I'm curious.

Should I prepare for a breakup if I'm thinking of getting married and have a long distance relationship?




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하앙,,, 오빠,,, 때려줘,,,, 어흑,,, 하아,,,하아,,,,, 그새끈 정리,,,으흥,,,했다니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,, 하앙,,, 오빠,,, 때려줘,,,, 어흑,,, 하아,,,하아,,,,, 그새끈 정리,,,으흥,,,했다니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,,╱▔▔▔╲▏▏▕♥, ,♥╮┈┈_
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If you can't even say these important things out loud, then what are you doing in marriage? There must be so many more hardships and struggles than this, so doubt hurts the other person and you end up getting hurt yourself.
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Yes.
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It's really serious...
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  [* Anonymous12 *] 0 3
Yes, ready.

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If you have any doubts, just break up with him because the situation is really like you expected.
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HaHa,,, brother,,, beat me,,,, 어흑,,, haHa,,,,haHa,,,,, 그새낀 정리,,,으흥,,,했다니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,, HaHa,,, brother,,, beat me,,,, 어흑,,, haHa,,,haHa,,,,, 그새낀 정리,,,으흥,,,했다니까,,, 흐응,,,,, 너무 깊어 잠깐마안~,,,,
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It's a bitch.
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Wow lol
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ㅋㅋㅋ ㅋㅋㅋ ㅋㅋㅋ
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  [* Anonymous44 *] 0 1
Did they change to a light blindness system...?
2023-03-18 20:04 * | Reply
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  [* Anonymous45 *] 0 0
Lol, reminds me of that guy who was conceptualizing ex-girlfriends. ㅋㅋ
I've never seen that before.
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석렬스럽네
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ㅋㅋ ㅈㄴ웃기네 ㅋㅋㅋ 작성자표정궁금하네요ㅋㅋㅋ
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문죄인팬덤이 추천누른거 보소
2023-03-19 06:45 * | Reply
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[* Anonymous3 *] 0 2
You already know that by the fact that your phone is dead.
2023-03-18 15:36 | Reply
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I contact her every day on my way to and from work, but I'm usually too busy to talk to her.
2023-03-18 15:41 | Reply
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  [* Anonymous3 *] 0 0
You can cheat with words, but you can't cheat with actions and emotions.
If you had a lot of doubts, it seems like the other person already knew.
2023-03-18 15:45 | Reply
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I will, you're delusional if you think I'll be busy.
2023-03-19 03:30 * | Reply
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[* Anonymous4 *] 0 1
If you feel it, you're right
2023-03-18 15:38 | Reply
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  [* Author *] 0 0
I'm usually a suspicious person...
2023-03-18 15:42 | Reply
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[* Anonymous5 *] 0 5
Most of the time, you have to ask to go to the 8th level central department. It's not easy to go when you're promoted.
2023-03-18 15:38 | Reply
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Huh. You said the same thing as my friend, but I'm confused now.  
2023-03-18 15:43 | Reply
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[* Anonymous6 *] 0 0
8급은 서기... Guyo Jusubo is a grade 7. There are very few grade 8 tios in the main office, and if you enter the national office at grade 9, it's usually a cycle of one local office and one main office. I don't know how long your girlfriend has been in the service, but she's not in a position to ask for an 8th grade transfer, and an 8th grade transfer to the headquarters is not as strange as you think. I think you should be prepared...
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I fixed it right away, thanks... I came in in 19, so I've been here for 3 and a half years.
Then is it just a phase that is moving away...
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  [* 익명7 *] 0 1
What are you talking about? Maybe you have connections or something.

How many people want to go to the center?


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If you're going to the center and you're in grade 9, you're usually working as a clerk in your home town, and if you're a woman and you're in grade 8.  
It's not necessarily because of the promotion, it's not because of the relationship, it's because there's a lot of work, so they don't want to go well, but they say they volunteered.
It's frustrating and difficult because my girlfriend only tells me that she was assigned to a difficult place.
2023-03-18 15:48 | Reply
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[* 익명7 *] 0 2
Go to the noodle department and get your ass kicked.

You'll be chewed up until you retire.

That much revenge is worth it.
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힘드네요ㅎㅎ...
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ì-"ë'ˆë'¤ì˜ ì-"ë'ˆë'¤? 헤어졋다.
2023-03-18 15:43 | Reply
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No, we didn't break up, we just wanted to take some time...
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  [* Anonymous70 *] 0 0
I said let's take some time and that's it.
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[* Anonymous9 *] 3 0
You're not married, you can have it both ways.
Just break up and find someone else.
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We met before the lunar new year.
I'm usually a suspicious person and I hope this is just a simple suspicion, but suspicious situations seem to create situations...
2023-03-18 15:54 | Reply
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Anonymous9 is not normal, or you didn't read the post correctly.
It's not normal to postpone a date, or to postpone marriage,
100%%%.
That's what happened to me, and I haven't touched a woman in 10 years because of the trauma.
I have a good life, but I can't help but feel alone. ㅠ
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Hyunta I understand... I found out I was dating an upgirl chat girl, Opie, while I was still in the greeting, and I didn't trust anyone for the next 5 years, so I didn't meet anyone. I'm married now, but I get suspicious at the slightest hint of something wrong with my husband, and my heart is so hard... Trauma comes too strongly, is it possible to overcome it.ㅜㅜ
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[* Anonymous3 *] 0 14
What are you even married for if you can't even say something this important?
I can't imagine how much worse and harder it's going to be than this.
That's why suspicion hurts the other person and you end up being the victim.
I want to have my doubts confirmed by others with certainty.
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그러게요 하하..
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It's a two-legged backer.
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